I have a friend who likes to say, “It’s not about you.” A lot of times I agree with this friend. He is a brilliant guy. Hard not to agree with someone who is brilliant. But, while I agree that most of the time you need to be a servant leader and others-focused, there are times when it IS about you.
It is about you when you blame other people for your problems. I have learned in life that you need to take care of your own junk before you start worrying about other people’s junk. I know someone else who works for someone who they do not get along with. They blame that person for why work is not going well. While that could be part of the problem I also firmly believe it is about the person more than it is about their boss. Take care of your own junk, it is about you.
JVD
